Friendship Break Up | Lifestyle

So a couple of weeks ago you will have seen that I wrote a post on long distance friendships and how lucky I have found myself to have these beautiful friends come visit me but today I kinda wanted to talk about the other side! 

I think I have been very fortunate in the sense that the majority of my friends have stayed exactly how they were when I was back home, of course I see them less but in terms of actually speaking with them it's remained the same if not more frequent now! However I have noticed a difference with the odd one or two!

I guess there are two types of these pals so let's talk about the pal who only appears when they want something! Oh yes, so they have heard that you have moved to Italy and they could really do with a cheap trip, how exciting for them! Like don't get me wrong, I am welcoming so many people to come join me in Florence, if I could have someone every weekend I would, but I find it interesting when it's the ones you literally haven't spoken to or seen for like months all of a sudden want to start talking about old times and how close we were way back when! In all honesty, I wouldn't stop anyone come out here, I'm not the Queen of Florence (yet...) but I mean don't expect me to change my schedule because we couldn't find time to meet when I lived in the same town, I think I might struggle even more so being in another country.

Moving onto the pal who actually forgets you exist, harsh I know! I was actually very surprised by one pal, I literally did so much for and have known years and yet when I moved out here it was almost like I never existed, which at first hurt me a little but I mean, you just can't dwell on these things! I could either continue to feel hurt or look at it from a more honest and realistic angle! Sometimes I think friendships work because they are quite convenient, we all have that one friend who you have known forever and you might meet up with them once every couple of months but as time goes on your realise you are actually very different people and all you ever talk about is stuff that happened in the past! I realised that our friendship was no longer convenient because our lives couldn't be more opposite so I can't blame this individual but I am not gonna waste another second thinking about it!

What are your thoughts on friendship break ups?

Long distance friendships | Lifestyle

This post is inspired by a couple of pals who came to visit me recently!

As you know, I'm in Italy, I have some great work colleagues and I have THE best roommates but I can't help but miss all my buddies in the UK! Sometimes I've found it really hard in the evenings because there isn't a massive amount I can do by myself. I know I can call or text but I must admit I can be a little rubbish at remembering to text people, you end up getting so wrapped up in your own little life that things get lost but in all honesty I just think that's part of growing up!

I do have a couple of pals that I can waffle on about utter rubbish with but more often then not I reach out because I genuinely care about how they are doing. For me I love those little moments where you see something and it makes you think of someone else and you have to message them instantly because they would just get it. It can be a little hard when I don't have a regular Internet connection or I'm just busy at work, I end up on missing some conversations which means that I've gotta go old school and text...Yeah shocking isn't it, to actually text in this day and age! The thing that I love about being out here is you value these interactions so much more and it doesn't even matter that you might not get a response the same hour or even in the same day, it just matters that the person is there regardless of location! 

I love having people come to visit beacuse when they arrive it's almost as if there has been no distance between us at all, we can just sit there chatting about whatever over a few cocktails and we could almost be anywhere. I've found it's really not that bad being away from everyone because it's not like I can't ever speak to them, in fact some people I probably message more than I did when I was back in the UK.

I had the best weekend with my pals, we ate, we drank, I gate crashed their hotel room! I might not get to see them for dinner and drinks after work anymore but I'm so lucky because I get to have mini breaks and holidays throughout the year with them. I'll hopefully be planning a little trip to Barcelona with a few of them in the summer which I can't wait for. Now, if only I could find a away of keeping all of them here with me all the time, or put them in my pocket or something...

Have you got many pals that live in different locations to you?